• inner world,  leadership,  self-awareness

    God grant me the serenity to accept the ideas I cannot execute

    Recently I led a seminar with my colleague Doug at InterVarsity‘s national staff conference. When we were debriefing how it went he told me frankly “your creativity stresses me out.” This is something coming from one of the most creative people in our movement who has literally helped create a program called “start something new.” Then my friend Adam posted this blog that I totally stole the title, idea and the picture from. I left such a long comment on his post I thought, “what the heck, I should just post this on my own blog!” This is an area of growth for me. I have so many ideas that I can…

  • friendship,  inner world,  kids,  parenting

    Fatherly Encouragement

    I sent my dad a thank you card recently. My mom is in Liberia for three weeks chaperoning a trip for Calvin College students. My dad is usually the one traveling around the world.  In part because I knew he would be a little lonely, in part because at InterVarsity’s recent national staff conference we were invited to write thank you’d. Thank you’s to people who have helped us to become a world changer. I love and appreciate my dad but I realize how seldom I tell that to him. Somehow texts, emails and even words spoken don’t have the punch of seeing something scrawled in a familiar script on…

  • inner world,  jesus,  justice,  parenting,  Uncategorized,  women

    When a man loves a woman- he will be an advocate

    In the immortal words of singer Percy Sledge “when a man loves a woman….he’d change the world for the good thing he’s found.” My friend Rob from California loves women- and is changing the world because of it. He loves women so much that he has dedicated a significant part of his life and leadership to being an advocate for women and girls in his life.  Today, he graciously agreed to share his thoughts to use his power as an advocate for women. Check out his blog and leave him a nice comment. We bloggers are a comment hungry bunch. Show us some love! ADVOCACY: WHAT’S IN IT FOR ME Over the…

  • books,  inner world,  jesus,  spirituality,  writing

    Dreams Come True

    Right before Christmas I received this amazing email from Al, an editor at InterVarsity Press: Jessica – I’m thrilled to tell you that our publishing committee officially approved publication of your book proposal! The team was impressed with what you have done to develop both the proposal and your platform, and folks really appreciate your motivation and creative energy. The sense was that the time is right for you and the book. Congratulations! I’m still grinning ear to ear that this is for real happening- I get to write Beautiful Feet! It’s all I can do to keep myself from yelling in excitement right now lest I wake up my…

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    What the Duck?

    As if your newsfeed isn’t already cluttered enough with Duck Dynasty rants one way or another (Christian’s are hate mongers!! Liberals are taking away free speech! Make him cut his beard off as punishment!!!) here is a post that expresses my thoughts on the whole matter. Since I’m on vacation busy drinking egg nog and eating way too many cookies I didn’t want to take the time to ramble through my thoughts on the whole thing. Instead here is Jen Hatmaker’s grace and love filled post  sums up my thoughts pretty well.  I don’t want to be known for what I’m against as a Jesus follower. I want to be known…

  • inner world,  jesus,  mom blogs,  MOPS,  spirituality

    Getting on God’s “Nice List”

    We try to do Christmas “right” – bake cookies for exchanges, host amazing parties, pick out (and ship on time) gifts to loved ones, sing carols with heartfelt adoration of baby Jesus. We may do all of these things because they are on our mental list of what a proper Christmas is supposed to be. God is never impressed by our lists of what we think is right…. To continue reading this post, check it out at FullFill’s site. They have an awesome line-up of webinars this winter and send out free weekly email’s like mine to subscribers. I get no compensation for plugging this btw- other than your lovely comments,…

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    Five Minute Friday: Reflect

    I spent a good chunk of the week in the car this week- driving to and from Canton, MI to participate in a National Speakers Cohort with InterVarsity Christian Fellowship. Though some people comment how they would hate to have a job that requires the kind of travel mine does I really enjoy it. I enjoy the promise of what going to a new place holds, with new or old friends. I like getting a rental car to try out that’s different than my normal mom-mini-van. We have one car so when I take trips I just rent a car from the lovely people at Enterprise. The thing I like…

  • awkward stories,  friendship,  inner world,  jesus,  marriage,  mom blogs,  parenting,  prayer

    Blog roundup

    I’ve been loving some of the posts I’ve been reading lately from brave and thoughtful folks- check out some of their goodness that involves gaping wounds, hot wives, and scandalous women. The one that made me thankful for men who love on their wives publicly: From Adam Jeske: Don’t Stop Bragging about Your Smokin Hot Wife….but please don’t stop there. The one that made me think about stupid things I’ve done and the stupid things I will do: From my girl Grace Biskie: That Little Warrior Girl The one that made me think about scripture in a new way: From Jenny Rae Armstrong: Scandalous, Loving, Woman The one that made me nod my head…

  • friendship,  kids,  marriage,  mom blogs,  parenting,  spiritual conversations,  spirituality,  work

    Care, Questions, & Creativity- sharing Jesus after college

    Jesus tells us to go into the world to make disciples (Matthew 28:19), but some days it feels like a lot just to make dinner. Now that you’re navigating traffic on your morning commute, toting young kids to soccer practice, or traveling 20 days a month for work,how do you talk to neighbors, friends, and colleagues about Jesus without sounding like a robotic salesperson? One of the best ways to do so is to be present to others and express interest in their lives…. To continue reading my post, click on over to InterVarsity’s evangelism blog….thanks-a-rooney neighbor! What have been ways you’ve reached out to colleges, neighbors, friends or other people in…

  • friendship,  inner world,  jesus,  kids,  mom blogs,  MOPS,  parenting,  spirituality,  Uncategorized,  working moms

    MOMcon 2013- Amazing happens here

    This past month I flew to Kansas City to attend MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) MOMcon. Yes, I know what you’re thinking, or at least picturing….something like this…. Frumpy Mom- who has gone un-showered, forgotten that she is a woman and is still wearing her clothes from high school because, well, her kids wipe their ranch dressing covered fingers on her sleeves and there is spit up on her shoulders from carrying the baby around. Why buy new clothes when that Alanis Morrisette t-shirt from 1997 still fits? or you picture this….. Perfectly coiffed moms who look like they bounced back postpartum like 2 hours after giving birth… like the ones from…

  • jesus,  justice

    Be lazy, free a slave

    This next month, New York City will be changed forever by students through the Price of Life campaign with InterVarsity Christian Fellowship. I could appeal to your altruistic nature—it’s horrible picturing the lives of people like the ones described in this article by International Justice Mission—but instead I’m going to appeal to your lazy side. Why? Because I know that, like me, you’d rather be on Pinterest than reading sad stories about child sex slaves or families forced into slave labor…. to continue reading my post, hop over to The Price of Life NYC’s blog to see the cool things happening to fight modern day slavery….    

  • inner world,  jesus,  social media,  spirituality,  Uncategorized

    cigarettes and carrot sticks- my facebook fast

    I decided to go on a facebook vacation recently.  And then I felt this huge void in my soul. Well, that might be a little dramatic but I definitely felt like a smoker who reaches for a cigarette only to remember that tough decision to quit.  Those addictive little puffs of affirmation, feedback and likes feel like they’ve begun to turn my insides into black goo and distract me from pursuing what I really want from life. So on my facebook vacation I decided like a smoker that it isn’t enough just to get rid of what I keep coming back to- I need some carrot sticks to replace my…

  • Uncategorized

    I see him everywhere

    I had been composing a blog in my mind while pruning the branches of my weeping cherry tree, a blog about white privilege  and all the cross-cutural training I’ve received through the years from Universities, scripture, the organization I work withInterVarsity Christian Fellowship or being willing to engage in difficult conversations about ethnicity with friends who look different than me. It was a blog that was going to explore the privileges I have simply because I’m white- even something simple like coming from a family of plant loving gardeners who have passed along their knowledge of dividing hostas, putting in sod and what kinds of berries are poisonous….   To keep reading this…

  • inner world,  jesus,  spirituality,  Uncategorized

    Tell me about your friend

    “You talk differently about God now.” Curious, I asked him what he meant- “you used to talk about Jesus, now you just say “the LORD” like you have to use his professional name now that you’re a campus minister.  My husband Dave made this comment about six months into my ministry with InterVarsity Christian Fellowship. We laughed about it but it also made me wonder what had changed.  I had been learning all kinds of cool things about the Bible, theology, relationships and prayer but I realized that it made me think about God in a professional way rather than as a friend.  God had become knowledge to attain rather…

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    Welcome to Jessicafick.com! (psssst….this is the big unveil)

    Hey blog friends! Welcome to my new site! I invited Maury Ballstein from Ballstein Models to provide appropriate fanfare: http://youtu.be/dGxWLonv2T4 At least that’s the sound that’s been going through my head today as I’ve tweaked away for the big unveil….at 5pm…on a Friday…at the beginning of summer….best time ever!!!  Sigh. I’ll take what time I can get when I’m home with my kids. The good news is the site is here to stay. Check out some of the new features: Evangelawesome- Just a little taste but there are juicy stories to come of people boldly sharing their faith as well as stories of people choosing to follow Jesus. Got a…

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    Welcome MOPS mamas!

    Hi! If you’ve clicked over to my blog from MOPS mom-email welcome! Take a look around, read my #momlife post- I’m sure many of you can relate to the gangsta’ life of a mom living hardcore in her minivan, arranging playdates like a pro, and buying goldfish like they’re going out of style. Feel free to subscribe to my blog- I post on a weekly-ish basis about practical ways to share your faith, stories about life and culture, tips on being a frugal fashionista and stories of people choosing to follow Jesus. Enjoy & Welcome! Jessica  

  • kids,  marriage,  mom blogs,  parenting

    #momlife

    If Tupac had Thug Life, I have #momlife.  I’ve tweeted this in the past but now momma friends, I’m throwing the door wide for you to leave your own #momlife comments below. Yes, I am old. I listened to Tupac back in the day. And now he has made his return in my imagination while I compose lyrics about being a mom to the tune of “I get around.” The incident below spurred me to finally write this post. Running around doing errands before a trip and stepping out of the car to drop off our lawn mower to be sharpened for a moment elicits screaming and crying from my…

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    Who is My Neighbor?

    When something horrific happens in your hometown it gives you pause to wonder how safe you really are.  Cleveland made international news last week with the story of the three women who had been abducted and held prisoner for 10 years in the home on the West Side of Cleveland.  Like most people I’ve had the feeling of horror, amazement that the women were found, humor at the candid interview of Charles Ramsey and been left wondering- “how can this happen?”  Most of all I’ve felt like the neighbors to Ariel Castro  grateful that the girls were rescued and horrified that it happened. “Charlie Czorba, a Caribe customer who lives…

  • inner world,  jesus,  marriage,  mom blogs,  parenting,  prayer,  spirituality

    Marriage is Just Too Loud for Me

    I could hear him throwing up in the bathroom though I was at the end of the hallway, at least 30 feet from the disgusting retching sounds.  Dave had food poisoning from a late night Denny’s run with some friends at a weekend retreat. We were there with his parents  a few months before he proposed to me in 2001 so I could experience one of his family traditions.  I stood with his mom in the musty church basement, a worried look crossing her face as she listed to her heaving son. Mom Fick, seeing my grossed out face which she must have interpreted as worry as well commented “Ohhhhh.…

  • art,  jesus,  kids,  mom blogs,  parenting,  Uncategorized

    Care for the Little

    “Will you read that poem to me mom?” This literally came out of my son’s mouth recently. No, I am not living in some sort of utopian world where my children request poetry instead of watching another episode of Superhero Squad- and now Thomas the Tank engine has made his dreaded return now that Oswald is almost 2 and is allured by a smiling, talking train. But yes, my son Reuben did as me to read him this poem we have posted at the bottom of our staircase. In time of Silver Rain by Langston Hughes In time of silver rain The earth puts forth new life again, Green grasses…

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    We Saw Your Boobs (and so did God)

    When Seth MacFarlane did his song “We Saw Your Boobs”  about Oscar winners and female actresses who no matter how accomplished are reduced to their boobs  I thought to myself that though that song would never have been sung in a church it too closely echoed a sentiment among too many churches about women in ministry. When I read this article Hey John Piper Is my femininity showing? it echoed sadness and frustrations I’ve had for years about how women are often viewed in the church. It reminded me of the question once asked to me by a pastor when I invited him to help me with my preaching. Wearing a then…

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    broken world baby, broken world

    My friend and colleague Rick often uses this phrase “Broken world baby, broken world” when things feel so horribly jacked up in life and in the world. Since the bombing in Boston it’s been running through my mind and is coming out in beatnik-type poetry. Feel free to give some cool-kid snaps at the end of my attempt to poetically process pain. Or just amuse yourself by picturing me reciting this while looking like chicly-baby from Pee-Wee’s playhouse. I see pictures of friends cheering runners on in Boston. Hours later cheering has turned to screams of terror bombs exploded, lives are ended and the city mourns I bake bread, check email, read NPR…