• race issues

    Asian intimidator

    I’ve realized in the past year, that I am intimidated when I am with Asian people. I confessed this to my friend Joyce the other night (who is Asian) after we enjoyed some soup together and a round of the un-game- a Fick family and social worker favorite get to know you game. Somehow we got on the subject of social norms and overlooked etiquette cues when I blurted out; “this year I realized that Asian people intimidate me.” Joyce, being a kind person who didn’t call me a racist and storm out of my house asked me what I meant. “well, I explained, I’m not embarrassed by much- crazy stories…

  • jesus,  justice,  race issues,  Uncategorized

    racist vomit

    “do you need a ride to the airport? I’ll glad you dump you back where you belong…why don’t you go back to your own country” The words were violently spewed out and even though they weren’t directed towards me by the angry woman whose bulk was covered in a baggy tweety bird tank top, I still felt attacked.   I was bagging my groceries at Aldi as an argument about grocery store line etiquette erupted into a torrent of racist slurs. What do you do in these situations? How do you react when someone you don’t know or care about violates the preciousness of what it means to be human?…

  • fashion,  friendship,  inner world,  mom blogs,  race issues,  working moms

    friday fluff- friends!

    The first time I met Gracee Biskie we were attending new staff training as rookies with InterVarsity Christian Fellowship.  The training was about multi-ethnicity and how to help students learn about what scripture says about diversity.  As a bi-racial woman from Detroit who had experienced a ton of racism throughout her life she was in the midst of working through a lot of pain and anger.  Though I didn’t know it at the time, the training was stirring up all kinds of issues in her life. That night as we went back to our host home we were sitting around in our pajamas talking about the training Gracee ranted her…

  • church,  parenting,  race issues

    “how to raise racist kids”

    I received one of the nicest compliments about being a parent this week. And it had to do with race.  I started thinking about this after I read an article entitled “how to raise racist kids” posted by a friend from Wired magazine. You can check out the article for yourself here. Dave and I go to a multi-ethnic church where we worship Jesus with Koreans, Africans, Latinos, African-Americans, Dutch people and everything in between.  We wanted to go there because we believe that we learn more about who God is and how to love people by being in relationships with people who look different than us. After all, God…