• friendship,  inner world,  jesus,  mom blogs

    Friendship What Ifs

    When it comes to making new friends, what holds you back? Here are a couple things I’ve been learning as I face my friendship fears in a new city. I recently moved to a new city and I am plagued by doubts in building new relationships: What if I reach out and she doesn’t respond? What if I share something vulnerable and I’m judged? What if we hang out and it’s really awkward? What if I show up to an event and feel out of place? ​Building relationships takes initiative, time and energy. Do you know many women who have an excess of those commodities? Yeah, me neither. But I’m…

  • jesus,  kids,  marriage,  mom blogs

    The hap-hap-happiest Christmas!!!! (or not)

    There are times I love my kids so much I think that my heart is going to explode. Kissing their round little cheeks, hearing Reuben tell corny knock-knock jokes, having Ozzy wildly cackle when he wins Candy Land. I marvel at the gifts they are to me and how full my life is with them. There are other times where I think my heart is going to explode with the frustration, drudgery and battle of wills with my kids. Seeing the sassy look on Ozzy’s face when he refuses to pick up the toys I’ve told him to pick up 8 times, the moody slump of Reuben when he overreacts…

  • inner world,  kids,  mom blogs,  parenting,  Uncategorized

    Five Minute Friday: Whisper

    In a hushed voice he says “moooom, I got a secret to tell you!” With his little face pressed against my ear he whispers the piece of information that he wants to share with me- sometimes about marbles, his favorite toy, sometimes it’s a nonsensical knock-knock joke which has become increasingly a favorite in our house. Other times he forgets what he wants to tell me and says….”ummm, I forgot.” It doesn’t really matter what he has to tell me because I love hearing that raspy little whisper. The feel of Ozzy’s soft cheeks, the urgency of the thing he wants to share with me, just me, simply because I’m…

  • fashion,  friendship,  inner world,  kids,  leadership,  mom blogs,  parenting,  women,  working moms

    This is My Life

    A couple years ago someone made the comment about a fashion blogger they read regularly- “why does she post about her kids? If I wanted to know about toddlers I’d read mom blogs, which I’m totally not interested in. I just want to know how to tie a scarf 27 ways or what flats are in style for the spring. Who cares that her toddler says the f-word when he asks for his truck! ”  As a blogger who writes about lots of different things this struck fear into my heart and raised all kinds of questions like: “Am I seen as dorky or out of touch if I post…

  • inner world,  jesus,  mom blogs,  MOPS,  spirituality

    Getting on God’s “Nice List”

    We try to do Christmas “right” – bake cookies for exchanges, host amazing parties, pick out (and ship on time) gifts to loved ones, sing carols with heartfelt adoration of baby Jesus. We may do all of these things because they are on our mental list of what a proper Christmas is supposed to be. God is never impressed by our lists of what we think is right…. To continue reading this post, check it out at FullFill’s site. They have an awesome line-up of webinars this winter and send out free weekly email’s like mine to subscribers. I get no compensation for plugging this btw- other than your lovely comments,…

  • awkward stories,  friendship,  inner world,  jesus,  marriage,  mom blogs,  parenting,  prayer

    Blog roundup

    I’ve been loving some of the posts I’ve been reading lately from brave and thoughtful folks- check out some of their goodness that involves gaping wounds, hot wives, and scandalous women. The one that made me thankful for men who love on their wives publicly: From Adam Jeske: Don’t Stop Bragging about Your Smokin Hot Wife….but please don’t stop there. The one that made me think about stupid things I’ve done and the stupid things I will do: From my girl Grace Biskie: That Little Warrior Girl The one that made me think about scripture in a new way: From Jenny Rae Armstrong: Scandalous, Loving, Woman The one that made me nod my head…

  • friendship,  kids,  marriage,  mom blogs,  parenting,  spiritual conversations,  spirituality,  work

    Care, Questions, & Creativity- sharing Jesus after college

    Jesus tells us to go into the world to make disciples (Matthew 28:19), but some days it feels like a lot just to make dinner. Now that you’re navigating traffic on your morning commute, toting young kids to soccer practice, or traveling 20 days a month for work,how do you talk to neighbors, friends, and colleagues about Jesus without sounding like a robotic salesperson? One of the best ways to do so is to be present to others and express interest in their lives…. To continue reading my post, click on over to InterVarsity’s evangelism blog….thanks-a-rooney neighbor! What have been ways you’ve reached out to colleges, neighbors, friends or other people in…

  • friendship,  inner world,  jesus,  kids,  mom blogs,  MOPS,  parenting,  spirituality,  Uncategorized,  working moms

    MOMcon 2013- Amazing happens here

    This past month I flew to Kansas City to attend MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) MOMcon. Yes, I know what you’re thinking, or at least picturing….something like this…. Frumpy Mom- who has gone un-showered, forgotten that she is a woman and is still wearing her clothes from high school because, well, her kids wipe their ranch dressing covered fingers on her sleeves and there is spit up on her shoulders from carrying the baby around. Why buy new clothes when that Alanis Morrisette t-shirt from 1997 still fits? or you picture this….. Perfectly coiffed moms who look like they bounced back postpartum like 2 hours after giving birth… like the ones from…

  • kids,  marriage,  mom blogs,  parenting

    #momlife

    If Tupac had Thug Life, I have #momlife.  I’ve tweeted this in the past but now momma friends, I’m throwing the door wide for you to leave your own #momlife comments below. Yes, I am old. I listened to Tupac back in the day. And now he has made his return in my imagination while I compose lyrics about being a mom to the tune of “I get around.” The incident below spurred me to finally write this post. Running around doing errands before a trip and stepping out of the car to drop off our lawn mower to be sharpened for a moment elicits screaming and crying from my…

  • inner world,  jesus,  marriage,  mom blogs,  parenting,  prayer,  spirituality

    Marriage is Just Too Loud for Me

    I could hear him throwing up in the bathroom though I was at the end of the hallway, at least 30 feet from the disgusting retching sounds.  Dave had food poisoning from a late night Denny’s run with some friends at a weekend retreat. We were there with his parents  a few months before he proposed to me in 2001 so I could experience one of his family traditions.  I stood with his mom in the musty church basement, a worried look crossing her face as she listed to her heaving son. Mom Fick, seeing my grossed out face which she must have interpreted as worry as well commented “Ohhhhh.…

  • art,  jesus,  kids,  mom blogs,  parenting,  Uncategorized

    Care for the Little

    “Will you read that poem to me mom?” This literally came out of my son’s mouth recently. No, I am not living in some sort of utopian world where my children request poetry instead of watching another episode of Superhero Squad- and now Thomas the Tank engine has made his dreaded return now that Oswald is almost 2 and is allured by a smiling, talking train. But yes, my son Reuben did as me to read him this poem we have posted at the bottom of our staircase. In time of Silver Rain by Langston Hughes In time of silver rain The earth puts forth new life again, Green grasses…

  • awkward stories,  kids,  mom blogs,  parenting

    This is not the child I signed up for.

    She pointed to the small scar, right between her daughter’s eyes before we watched her run off to climb up a slide on the playground.  I shrugged to my sister “she’s pretty unafraid of things.”  “Uh, yeah, almost too unafraid” she said, rolling her eyes.  “Like the time that she charged up to a group of girls on the playground who were wearing pink princess dresses and said “princesses freak me out.”  When the girls didn’t respond to her Raquelle said even louder  with her hands on her hips “DID YOU HEAR ME? Princesses freak me out!” Not exactly the best way to make new friends.” My sister just shook…

  • cooking,  food,  inner world,  mom blogs

    things to do while waiting for a baby

    No such luck having baby fick #2 arrive on his due date like Reuben!  Yesterday was my due date & no sign of the little guy yet.  For the past two weeks there have been days where I have been in false labor, even going to the hospital once to be sent home, which was a major bummer.  So here is how I’ve been passing my time. Baking: Blueberry-raspberry pound cake for the 4th of July.  It was like fruity fireworks in a cake! I didn’t take a picture of mine but you get the idea of what it looked like from this other one. It was great to enjoy…

  • mom blogs

    quiet down musical hog!

    If you’ve ever hung out with the Fick brothers, you know that it’s typically a quote fest laced with Seinfeld, Disney or Arrested Development quips and a lot of loud laughing.  It took me awhile to get used to when I was present to the full quoting force of Dave and his brothers, and even now I’m able ask them to quit it when they become a bit too similar to Jack Black’s obsessively specific quoting in High Fidelity Now that Reuben is getting older, it looks like he’s acquired his uncles love of quoting to express himself.  A couple weeks back we watched Toy Story 3 together- though he’s…

  • inner world,  mom blogs,  Uncategorized

    the support network: life as a working mom

    Even more profound than the support power of Spanx to make a jiggly booty smooth is the unbelieveable support network that God can provide for working moms.  I tip my proverbial hat  to the following groups of people who make life not only manageable but enjoyable. 1. The Husband: Dave has schlepped our baby around to meetings I’ve attended  just so I could continue to nurse, has watched Reuben solo for weeks while I’m away for work, taking M.A. classes at Wheaton, is savvy to the story-times, play-dates and free times for the zoo,  children’s museum and local attractions to keep him entertained. He is a superior and creative cook…

  • inner world,  mom blogs,  parenting,  Uncategorized

    the double-blessing: Life as a working mom

    While there are many challenges to being a working mom, there are a lot of great things that come with the territory.  Research such as Sally Heglesen’s book The Female Advantage cites that moms learn to have an integrated approach to work life and home life in being forced to be more resourceful with their time and energy. Heglesen writes: “Increasingly, motherhood is being recognized as an excellent school for managers, demanding many of the same skills:  organization, pacing, the balancing of conflicting claims, teaching, guiding, leading, monitoring, handling disturbances, imparting information.” Though I haven’t’ yet read Heglesen’s book, a fellow working-mom colleague Anne Hong cited it in a paper she…

  • inner world,  jesus,  mom blogs

    the double-bind- life as a working mom

    Confession- at various points in my life I have thought all of these things: kids are speed-bumps on the career path, being a mom seems lame, God is a jerk if he wants me to have kids and give up a job I love. Maybe you’re in the other camp entirely and have been waiting to have babies since you went through puberty. I have never stepped foot in that camp.  Now that I’m approaching having not one, but two children it’s made me think and pray a lot about how my life will change when spawn of Fick #2 arrives this summer. It’s been a hesitant path to motherhood for…

  • inner world,  mom blogs

    i feel old

    As some of you know from my facebook status last week; “I am entering into the land of mini-van ownership, I never thought it would happen to me.” For whatever reason, this milestone really made me not feel like a kid anymore. Let’s do a brief recap of the past 10 years: In the last 10 years I’ve graduated from college, gotten married, bought two houses, enrolled in a retirement plan, bought a couple cars, had a baby, worked for the same organization for nearly 10 years (with college kids no less who remind me daily that I wasn’t born in 1985 and don’t know who Seinfeld is, or more…

  • mom blogs,  parenting

    random reubenisms

    A little break from Burning Man blogs to bring you some cuteness from my son and the random stuff that he says: Holding up an empty toilet paper roll in the bathroom: me: is that your telescope? R: no- it’ my laser. me: oooh, do you want to decorate your laser with stickers? R: oh, no, no, no (he says in a knowing tone) the laser would burn off the stickers. At the dinner table: Dave: Reuben do you want to pray and thank Jesus for our food? R: (begins singing the Thomas the Tank theme song) “they’re two, they’re four, they’re six, they’re eight, shunting trucks and hauling freight….that’s…

  • mom blogs,  parenting

    sad mama heart

    Moving is tough- especially when you’re a three year old and don’t understand the concepts of time or distance.  I knew that once fall hit & our hectic travel schedule ceased we’d start to feel that we really have moved.  Well, this week it feels like we have moved. I’ve moved a few times in my life throughout high school, college and adulthood. However, I’ve never moved with a child before.  At the beginning of the summer Reuben was super-excited to be in Cleveland (and who wouldn’t be btw!;) For the last week he’s been asking me every day “can we go over to Ransoms house? Can we go see…

  • mom blogs,  Uncategorized

    the mother of all days

    Mother’s day is smack in the middle of the two weeks that Dave is away doing leadership training for students with the organization we work for- InterVarsity.  It’s probably one of the most fun, stressful, exhausting and rewarding weeks of our year where we get to meet hundreds of students from across the midwest, see what God is doing in their lives and help them to take the next steps of obedience. Plus it’s at a camp on Lake Huron that is nestled onto beautiful Prentiss Bay in Michigan’s Upper Peninsula. Hiking trails through tall Cedar trees, rocky limestone paths winding between cabins and big boulders that look across the…

  • inner world,  jesus,  mom blogs,  Uncategorized

    Raise your hand IF…You have Crazy Mom disease

    My Friend Lisa posted this blog recently & I found myself feeling similar sentiments recently.  You can check her out at: http://haller4307.xanga.com/726517508/raise-your-hand-ifyou-have-crazy-mom-disease/ I’ve been trying to hold it together while Dave is away for work for the next two weeks & I am home caring for Reuben, packing our house to move in a month, and trying to write two papers amongst other things. Lisa’s post inspired me to write a Crazy Mom Disease Post of my own. What is Crazy Mom Disease? Symptoms may differ between moms but may include: 1. Hurricane Head: Thinking a hurricane of thoughts all at the same time about vastly different things: i.e. “when…