Do you ever get jealous of fictional characters? I find myself envying Zoey Deschenel’s wardrobe in New Girl, and that Wonder Woman can roam around with a lasso of truth in some killer red boots. I also get jealous of real people- random friends on social media I see who seem to be having amazing time connecting with friends, and bloggers who seem to effortlessly crank out content that throngs of people love, and marriages where breakfast in bed is a normal occurance.
You know what happens when I start to focus on all of the ways I’m not being loved? I get crusty, bitter, resentful and wish I could just fly away in an invisible jet like Wonder Woman. The reality is if we focus on all the ways we aren’t receiving the kind of love we want we prevent ourselves from loving others.
In his book The Four Loves, C.S. Lewis wrote about the nature of love from a Christian perspective. These 4 kinds of love he explores are affection, friendship, erotic love and the love of God. I think we need to demonstrate more varieties of love than what we see in commercials, movies or instagram.
Text a friend, bake some cookies, demonstrate to the people in your life that you love them. You value them. Don’t wait around for the kind of love you wish you were being shown to you. Scripture tells us “We are able to love because God first loved us.” God is the one who gives us love to show it to others no matter where they’re at spiritually.
In the Four Loves, Lewis wrote: “We need others physically, emotionally, intellectually; we need them if we are to know anything, even ourselves.”
In loving others we discover more about who we are and who God is. Instead of fearing that you are unloved, unlovable and alone, reach out to someone who may not even know that God loves them. To someone who might need the reassurance that there are people in their life who see them and care about them. It doesn’t need to be fancy. It just needs to happen.
Fearless happens with friends,